Dating for Men in Their 30's

Alex Koupal • April 19, 2023

What to Think About as a Man Dating in Your 30's

a couple in their thirties sits on a blanket on a beach to watch a sunset together

Dating can be a tricky business, especially for men in their thirties. At this stage in life, you may have already established your career, and you are looking for a partner who shares your values, goals, and ambitions.


Dating apps may have worked for you in the past, but now you are looking for more meaningful connections. So, where can you find women who share your interests, passions, and goals?


Here are some tips on how to meet like-minded women:


Join Groups and Clubs

One way to meet women who share your interests is to join groups or clubs related to your hobbies or passions. This could be a hiking club, a book club, a running group, a cooking class, or any other group that aligns with your interests. Not only will you have fun doing something you enjoy, but you will also meet women who have similar interests and values.


 Attend Networking Events

Networking events are not just for business. They can also be a great way to meet women who share your career goals and aspirations. Attend industry conferences, seminars, or workshops that are relevant to your profession. This is a great way to meet like-minded women who are also looking to network and make connections.


Volunteer

Volunteering is a great way to meet people, including women who share your values and goals. You can volunteer for a cause that is meaningful to you, such as animal welfare, education, or environmental conservation. Not only will you feel good about helping others, but you will also meet women who are passionate about the same cause.


Take Classes

Taking classes is another way to meet women who share your interests and values. This could be a language class, a dance class, or any other class that you are interested in. You will not only learn something new, but you will also have the opportunity to meet new people.


Once you have met someone who shares your interests and values, it is important to think about what you want your life to look like with this person. Here are some questions to consider:


What do you want your life to look like with this person?

It is important to think about what you want your life to look like with this person. Do you want to travel the world together? Do you want to start a family? Do you want to start a business together? Having a shared vision for the future is important in building a successful relationship.


Will you have children? Will you not have children?

If having children is important to you, it is important to discuss this with your partner early on in the relationship. You want to make sure that you are both on the same page when it comes to starting a family.

If you and your partner do not want to have children, it is important to discuss this as well. Not everyone wants to have children, and it is important to find someone who shares your views on this topic.


Will you run a business together?

If you and your partner have entrepreneurial ambitions, it is important to discuss whether you want to start a business together. Starting a business with your partner can be a great way to build a life together and achieve your career goals.


Will she stay at home or will you?

If you and your partner decide to start a family, it is important to discuss whether she will stay at home to raise the children or whether you will both work. This is an important decision that can have a significant impact on your life and your relationship.


In conclusion, dating in your thirties can be challenging, but it is possible to find someone who shares your values, goals, and ambitions. By joining groups and clubs, attending networking events, volunteering, and taking classes, you can meet like-minded women who share your interests.


Here are some of my favorite networking groups:

www.venturecafephoenix.org

www.meetup.com

www.phoenixchamber.com

www.bni.com


If you'd like additional support dating in your 30's, schedule a free Lifepath Mentorship consultation!

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