The Path to Purpose - Finding Your "Why"

Bethany Graver • February 27, 2024

Discovering Your Why: Unveiling Your Purpose

Have you ever found yourself questioning the purpose of your existence? Do you wonder why you do the things you do and what drives you? The search for our “why” is a fundamental aspect of our personal growth and fulfillment, and one that many people struggle to define for themselves. When we uncover our true purpose, life becomes more meaningful, and we gain a sense of direction that guides our choices and actions.

In this blog post, we will dive into the journey of finding your why and explore some practical tips to help you along the way.

Reflect on Your Passions:

A great first step to begin uncovering your why is by reflecting on your passions. Take a moment to think about the activities or causes that ignite a fire within you. What topics or activities do you find yourself naturally drawn to? What brings you joy and a deep sense of fulfillment? Identifying your passions can lead you to align your purpose with them, allowing you to feel more fulfilled in the pursuit of your ambitions.

Examine Your Values:

Our values play a significant role in defining who we are and what we stand for. Ask yourself what principles you want to embody and promote in your personal and professional life. Identifying your core values will help you align your actions and decisions with your purpose, resulting in a greater sense of fulfillment and authenticity.

Understand Your Strengths:

Often, our purpose aligns with our strengths to make a positive impact on others or the world around us. Recognizing and cultivating these strengths can guide you towards fulfilling your true purpose. What are you naturally good at? What are your unique talents or abilities?

If you have a hard time answering these questions, consider asking someone close to you for feedback on what they think you do well. Sometimes, our inner critic can cloud our objectivity and self-assessment. It’s good to get insights from our family, friends and colleagues to gain insights into how we influence and impact those around us.

Reflect on Your Impact:

Now that you’ve considered your passions, values and strengths, consider the kind of impact you want to have on the world. Do you aspire to bring positive change, inspire others, promote sustainability, or foster compassion? Or maybe you look at chaotic situations and have a strong desire to create order and organization. Understanding the intersection between your talents, passions and the impact you wish to make provides clarity and helps you connect with your why on a deeper level.

Embrace the Self-Discovery Process!

Finding your why is a process of self-discovery that requires self-reflection and patience. Allow yourself permission to explore different paths, experiment with new experiences, and be open to unexpected opportunities. Embracing self-discovery enables personal growth, and the more you learn about yourself, the closer you come to uncovering your true purpose.

Keeping a journal is an excellent way to work through the process of self-discovery, and track the progression of your thoughts and insights that come along the way.

Unearthing your why is an ongoing journey, and it is never too late to begin. By reflecting on your passions, understanding your values, recognizing your strengths, and considering the impact you wish to have, you can gradually find clarity and purpose in your life, even and especially as the circumstances and events of your life change and evolve.

So, begin your journey today, and take the first step toward feeling more fulfilled and connected to your purpose. You owe it to yourself to live a life that is aligned with your true why.

And if you want even more support in discovering your purpose, we’re hosting an in-person workshop on March 7th to help guide your process, provide additional resources, tools, and connect you with a community of purpose-driven people who are working to develop the best versions of themselves.

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How to Figure Out What You Want in Life (Without the Overwhelm)

By Alex Koupal • April 16, 2025

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Tiktok, Social Media & Teens: How to guide without just saying, "Get off your phone!"

By Alex Koupal • April 9, 2025

Let’s be real: telling teens to “get off your phone!” doesn’t work. Social media is part of their world. For our teens, social media is how they connect, learn, and express themselves. So how can we help them use it wisely without sounding and being the villain? There’s a way to help them navigate social media mindfully, and no, it doesn’t involve a complete ban. 1. Start the Conversation, Not the Battle Instead of becoming the enemy and banning social media out of the blue, talk to your teen about what they’re doing on it. Is it for learning, creativity, or just entertainment? Understanding their “why” helps guide them to use it more purposefully. 2. Set Healthy Boundaries Together Instead of enforcing rules, involve your teen in setting healthy screen-time limits. It gives them ownership and responsibility over their habits. For example, “I’ll spend 30 minutes scrolling up on TikTok after school, and then I’ll switch to doing homework” can be a much better strategy than enforcing a rigid rule that feels like punishment. When your teen has a say in the boundaries, they’re more likely to stick to them. 3. Be a Role Model What adults do, Teens do! If we’re glued to our phones, constantly checking social media, it sends the message that it’s okay to get lost in the digital world. Model healthy habits, like setting phone-free times, taking social media breaks, or just being present during family time. Show them how to use social media in a balanced way by setting phone-free times and modeling healthy habits. 4. Encourage Real-Life Activities Social media is great for staying in touch, but it can never replace real-life experiences. Encourage hobbies, sports, or family time to keep them grounded. This way, they can create a well-rounded life that isn’t centered solely around the screen. Plus, those real-world experiences will give them something to post about on their feed! 5. Be Their Guide, Not Their Warden At the end of the day, we can’t control everything teens do online. But we can provide guidance, support, and resources to help them use social media in a positive and mindful way. Keep the lines of communication open and encourage them to have trusted mentors—whether it’s a teacher, coach, older cousin, or life coach—who can provide advice beyond just Mom or Dad. If you’re worried about your teen’s social media habits, let’s talk! Book a free parent support session.